Temptation
The temptation or desire to possess has always been part of human nature. Especially in these days of abundance, it is quite difficult to remain unaffected by it. But there is one important relationship, and it is Reason – Temptation. We must understand that reason must always prevail over temptation. Otherwise, we end up in a state of suffering and regret.
According to the Stoics: Short–term pleasure always leads to long–term suffering. That is why we must realize that the more we have, the more we will want. And the pleasure we derive from what we acquire is short–lived.
„It is not the one who has little who is poor, but the one who wants to have more.“
Seneca
One of the Stoic practices for dealing with temptation is to realize that life can be lived with less; in other words, to live only with what we need and in harmony with nature. Everyone has the right to enjoy life’s pleasures, but the key is to maintain control over them (moderation), rather than letting them control us.
“The vine bears three bunches of grapes: the first is that of pleasure, the second of drunkenness, the third of violence.”
Epictetus
Stoic strategies for overcoming temptation
1. Think before you act
Wait for a certain amount of time. Name it: “This is just a wish, not a command.”
2. Negative visualization
Don’t think about the pleasure, but about the cost that follows.
3. Voluntary discomfort
Deny yourself a certain pleasure. That way, you prove that you don’t need it.
4. Cognitive distance
Take a step back and look at yourself. How would you evaluate that behavior?
5. Deconstruction
Break down the pleasure into its constituent parts. Example: Wine is simply juice from fermented grapes; clothing is just fabric and polyester.
„The only wealth you will ever have is the wealth you have given away.“
Marcus Aurelius
„If you live according to the laws of nature, you will never be poor.
If you live according to the laws of people, you will never be rich.“
Seneca
Another way to overcome temptation (or desire) is to ask ourselves (honestly) whether we are grateful. This can quickly snap us out of the momentary feeling and bring us back to conscious reality. You should ask yourself:
Do I fully appreciate what I have?
Am I grateful for what I have received?
What would I give if I lost what I have now, just to get it back?
How would I react if I lost everything?
What would someone else give to have what I have?
Do I pay attention to and appreciate the things I already have?
It is not one’s possessions that define a person, but one’s actions.